The Queer WoodworkerI got ma’am’d today. I couldn’t tell if the person who did so thought I was a cis woman, or thought I was a trans woman and was humoring me. I get both, and the same for sir. There are times where I attempt to influence people’s perception of me in a particular direction by […]
I’m queer. In fact, I’m several different flavors of queer. I am one of the most openly queer people in my friend group, and that results in a lot of questions about queerness being pointed to me. Today I want to talk about one specific type of question that I get asked: “Can I still […]
Intersectionality is a huge thing in autism. Co-diagnosis with ADHD, depression, learning disabilities etc is higher in autistic people. Being autistic and Black is a different experience than being autistic and white. Being an autistic woman is a different experience than being an autistic man. There are a lot of intersectional areas to explore, but […]
From time to time, I will hear someone tell a queer person “you’ll grow out of it” or “it’s just a phase” or “I don’t want you to make any decisions yet, you’re too young to know.” Usually this comes from a parent, but sometimes from an older sibling, grandparent, teacher, or other authority figure. […]
There’s no doubt that objectively, guy is a gendered term. So is bro, and dude. Just go up to a straight guy and ask him how many dudes he’s slept with. A lot of my friends aren’t bothered by these terms, but it bothers me to be referred to that way. Communication requires two people. […]
Today is National Coming Out Day. I am queer of gender and orientation, and one thing no one told me was that coming out isn’t a one-time thing. We live in a cis-normative hetero-normative culture, and that means people are going to assume that I’m cis and straight. If I want them to think something […]
This post is about a free, anonymous tool that I made for checking to see if it’s safe to come out to someone. https://willyouaccept.me/ Today is Coming Out Day. While I didn’t come out on this day, I did see a post from my sister last year saying that she was a safe person to […]
Sometimes people ask me why I started this blog. Sometimes it’s genuine curiosity, with no preconceived ideas or motivation behind asking. Sometimes it comes with the connotation of “there are plenty of other LGBTQ+ makers out there already.” Sometimes it comes with frustration or contempt: “Why do you have to shove it in my face? […]